Children need to see us actively loving the world in our own way, like some of my neighbors who shepherded a family of ducks across the parkway this week, picture above.
Our kids need us aware and awake. They also need us to notice and point out evidence of kindness wherever we can.
Our kids need us at our best so we can co-create an inclusive and compassionate future with them. That may mean we have to let ourselves be less productive, hold boundaries to care for ourselves, and be sad for a while. By sitting with our own denial, healing can begin.
Systemic and Family Denial Leaves Our Children Isolated, Causing Overwhelming Distress
We are experiencing collective grief, whether we are aware or numb to it. Some of us have generational hurdles, and it is time to sit with those.
“If you grew up in an environment where parents were in denial about significant issues in the family, it makes sense that feeling invalidated creates overwhelming emotional distress.”
-Sharon Peykar, LCSW
I don’t only see this in me, but in our culture here in the U.S. When will we as a culture become human? When we value our shared humanity, we’ll become human ourselves. Two years ago, there was different death, also innocent, tragic and preventable. We have not recovered. Our kids have not recovered. We certainly can’t give them access to guns.
3 Helpful Resources for Parenting During Traumatic Times
Here is an 11 minute restorative yoga and breathing video to help you feel more connected and rested: Restorative Yoga for Conscious Community.
Here is a reassuring article to help you respond to your kids' questions after tragedy.
Here are some resources to help you navigate through this time from Dr. Becky Kennedy. As she says, “This feels hard because it is hard.”
Hi, I’m Kate, and I'm a recovering codependent. I’m a parent of a cis white neurodivergent boy, and I’m hurting right now. I’m deeply feeling the imperative to raise an inclusive, kind and grounded human during these traumatic times. If I am suffering, with all my emotional balance tools, gathered from 20 years of teaching meditation, breathing and yoga, I imagine others feel even heavier and more isolated.
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Summer Is Coming, Ready or Not
I've got some things to support you in that transition:
Here is the next podcast in the summer series:
How to Set Up Your Atypical Kids for Summer Day Camp Success
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Stop Walking On Eggshells!
Gentle yoga to release your stress and shift your mindset about struggle.
If you get your buttons pushed often by other people's issues, you may be hypervigilant. You might feel it in your body as clenching, tension, or chronic pain.
You'll become more grounded in awareness of your body.